What can ever be gained by shutting down? When people stop talking, the possibilities for forgiveness come to an abrubpt end. There can be no understanding without communicating.
Silence amplifies pain.
Suffering in silence is not holy martyrdom, it is passive/aggressive manipulation.
It is manipulation that often backfires. Relationships die in silence.
So yell, shout, swear, vent the anger, express the hurt. Just don't stop talking.